mooning arches.

with friends at the arches

Browsing through my pictures I found the above image and it brought a smile to my face. I'm on the left, and the other two are a wonderful couple with about 30 years in between them.

They are both very attractive men. Interesting how the butt sometimes wears! Note to self: watch that hinny.

two transmitters, no receivers syndrome

stevewalkerartist.com - beautiful male art

He loaded the groceries into the fridge.

I quizzed him on the cheeses and how long they'd been in the fridge.
He answered about molds, softnesses, and how cheeses are made.

Impatient, I clipped his answers short.

Later, sitting in my low mini Ikea chair, I wanted to converse.

Chatted about something or other.
Not minding my words.

He excused himself to work on his laptop.

Coming back up to sit in the same room.

 

Two lovers wanting to connect.

At different times.

As another writer I read yesterday put it:
two transmitters, no receivers syndrome.

I sat perplexed at first.

What went wrong?

Remembering to speak kindly to myself.

Hearing softly what it was that I was wanting. 

Seeing past the head-speak.

 

First I'd forgotten to love myself.

To sit down and recuperate myself after the last two hours at the grocery store.

 

I'd forgotten then to love him,
and see his heart.  

Bask in his essence...

Happiness crept back in.

I could see where to go from here.

ass

Not much is taught to us about our ass. Many of us gay men - and straight men - use our ass for an interesting array of activities - or not.

I wish there was more know-how, conversation, and thus skill around this.

I'm going to do my usual thing and push boundaries a bit, in a hopefully stay-a-little-bit-classy sort of way. Here's a few images that convey some of the variety of energies and activities:

a horny guy fingers himself

Some guys feel more pleasure, others more pain. Some of us learn techniques that increase the possibilities for pleasurable sex. Part of it has to do with simple anatomy. One has to:

• get past the rectal sphincter muscles - allowing them to relax,
• get past inner bends (of varying lengths in varying men),
• conform the flexibility of the rectum/intestines with the flexibility of the erect penis,
• not to mention timing for cleanliness (depending on tolerances)

Fortunately there's also lube, dildos, toys, and clipped nails (lol).

 

1466 inspection of male urethra

Ultimately I think most of us guys that have sex with men look for ways to increase the pleasure and diminish the pain. A little gentleness and perseverance can sure pay off!


orgy in a dream

Last night I had an unusual orgy dream. Unusual because I hardly ever dream of orgies or actual penetrative sex.

I dreamed that some of my buddies were lounging around in a crowded apartment cuddling and talking. I pulled out the video camera. Tal Oregon Cutie asked me to film him. He sat in the window sill and Diminutive Smiley Flirt sat on his cock.

Interestingly soon my parents were in the room, on the floor, and my dad penetrated my mom in the same public fashion, he on his back. Mind you, I've NEVER had a dream of my parents having sex before. It's not something I think about really, or had any strong emotions about during the dream.

Next - in the dream - we were out in a wide desert and I was trying to find the orgy. I had another friend with me. I spoke to the person in charge, who assured me I'd find it. Looking around, the desert was flowing with water everywhere - mini-water-falls every few dozen meters. I settled on the ground with a group of guys waiting...

Often dreams parallel our awake-world experiences. Or dreams can appear to make no sense at all. In this case in "real life" I'd been thinking about HUMP, the local amateur porn festival and filming something with a handful of guys I know. But the parents-in-intercourse scene came completely out of nowhere. I'm amused actually because it represents something new and fresh.

I took a 12-week Jungian dreams course with four students in group format. We kept dreams journals and learned fascinating and useful strategies for the intersections of these two worlds - the awake world and dream world.

One of the concepts we learned is that recurrent nightmares with strong negative emotions can represent an area in our conscious life where we are stuck. Not until it is flowing again does the dream evolve to a new scenario, or stop being a nightmare. So the coming of new imagery and situations in dreams is often parallel with growth  - a good sign.

Dreams are often partially a mystery. We can uncover part of the meaning, but need not become too obsessed with explaining every detail. In fact, we can't. We can instead hold images or the question in our mind.

Dreams in many cultures represented great wisdom. Perhaps a portal to a very-real world of ancestors or other dimension. Perhaps if we are not addressing something in the conscious world, it makes itself manifest in the unconscious world. Thus achieving a balance and groundedness greater than our own individual wisdom. Using big words - a psychological homeostasis is achieved. Dreams unblock areas where flow is needed in our awake life.

This particular dreams teacher, in response to a question I had about sex in dreams, said that often people with a full or satisfactory sex life don't hardly dream of sex. Just like a functional partnership or relationship. But sex appears more frequently in dreams when it is missing or needing resolution on some front. Interesting trends.

wordless

 

you get me high, I give you sex

You get me high. I give you sex.

At least that's what the arrangement looked like. Hairy middle-aged bearded man asked if it was okay if they got high. Sure I said. Thank you for being polite to ask.

He lit up and inhaled. Then blew some smoke into bubble butt writhing moaning guy's mouth. Like CPR. Hot.

I'd spied them lying naked together, resting, and asked if they wanted some company. Soon we were fondling each other. Within a few minutes I had my condom on and was in bubble butt. He's one wiggly-worm cutie. Then bearded man put on his condom and got inside of me... all at the same time. How did I get so lucky?

I held off cumming. Things evolved, and it ended almost as quickly as it began.

Lying there after touching and chatting a bit, come to find out they've been friends for three years. They both seemed pretty happy and egalitarian, despite a few years' difference. They both seemed to enjoy the arrangement, friendship really.

I thought that in other realms someone might consider an exchange of this kind prostitution. The offering of sex for reward. But really, if this was the case, which was purely observational conjecture on my part, they both seemed more like chaps enjoying each other's company. The lines which some elements of society try to make so solid really seemed irrelevant here.

pre photo shoot - body fat

these images come from nerd fitness,
where there's an excellent fuller article

Where are you on the body fat spectrum?

There are several things a person can do to look a bit better before a photo shoot. Most of the gains are made with food alterations.

• Eat less carbs.
• Avoid salt (retains water).
• Drink less water.
• Eat significantly smaller portions.
• Reps to bulk muscles.

These are all things done for the short-term, and obviously not healthy for the long-term (most of them).

The flip side is that your energy will also feel down, but you'll look better in the pictures!... look better at that naked beach, sex club, for that event or group... The above tips work especially for someone who is already in shape and is just improving that last shade.

Certainly most of the photo shoots that I've done are just friends on a nude hike taking pictures as we go along. A handful of times I've experimented with nude photography alone or with a friend. I've actually never done an actual dedicated nude photo shoot with a professional photographer.

Each type of photo experience has it's emphasis: the catch-the-fun-and-natural-beauty emphasis, the I'm-learning-all-the-cool-things-my-camera-can-do, the artistic-experiments, and the exposition-of-the-body-hopefully-beautifully.

Professional body-builders do more in-depth preparations, like the one explained by Brad Gouthro on his website and video.

artsy edges

I browse for images for my posts, and sometimes find some beautiful images. Like these.

Sometimes art grabs our eyes, precisely because it dares go where it's "not supposed to."

The forbidden vs. the desired. All themes that have been playing for centuries.

Artists often push the edge. Sometimes that's exactly what society needs, to loosen the grips of something that no longer needs to be gripping us. (Fear, prejudice, shame, censorship, undue seriousness.)

It helps us see beauty in more places.

What do all of these images have in common? Besides artistry.

Intimacy.

The drive for intimacy is strong. Connection with others. We partly don't even understand it, just try to do it gracefully.