asexual

At a clothing optional japanese hot tubs and massage place here in Santa Fe this weekend. Great place.

I would not have believed it until I met them in person. People who feel asexual. Not that they don't have intact genitalia, just that they don't feel sexual either hardly ever, or not at all. 

My most vivid experience was at a male-male committment ceremony in the wild. We camped for a few days as a little clan. There were a few gay couples and about an equal number of lesbian couples. And then a handful of us single folks. One sunny afternoon a couple of us wanted to go skinny dipping in a slow bend of a river. Me and a cool gal I'll call activist co-ed with glasses.

I delight in experiencing life fully and having new experiences, meeting new people. So I smiled inside as we undressed and waded into the water. We were already familiar, so I asked about various details of her proclaimed asexual existence. I believe her sincerity. She had a "boyfriend" who felt the same way. They occasionally cuddled, but both had never in their lives felt sexual desire. They met online - on sites for people like them who to varying degrees have their same experience.

At work I used to have a crush on stunning eyes hottie co-worker. I've been curious about his mysterious sexuality. He seems straight, but has rainbow stickers on personal paraphernalia. When I commented to him about the local amateur porn festival Hump, he said that his wife would love it, but that wasn't his kind of thing. It jived with several other details, and it occurred to me that he might be one of those real people in our midst who have naturally much less or no interest in sex. Very unlike myself, yet I can respect that. Whether my assessment is right or not, it helps me wrap my head around some people's mannerisms and conversations. It helps me meet them where they're at.